Everyone has always been excited for another start of the Year. After the celebration of love, peace and giving, the year ends which is another call for a merrier and joyous New Year. Some would prepare a better feast than what has been prepared during Christmas because we usually believe that the more abundant the food the more blessing for the entire year. Everything has to be in the context of abundance for it would best start a blessed year.
Aside from the grandeur which indicates of how you would want your entire year to be, the other aspect of how people celebrate the start of another year is to emphasize a “New Year’s Resolution”. A New Year’s Resolution is actually about trying to enumerate either things or attitude of which you think of changing of keeping. The negative ones are those that you want to avoid or perhaps stop doing in general and the positive ones are those that you want to carry out maybe because your goal is to become a “better you”. Now I say that in my own point-of-view, the whole year round can always be a chance for change, and that everyday is an opportunity to learn and get better.
Believing in the concept of New Year’s Resolution sometimes makes us ending up in frustration. One reason is that one is actually focused on limiting oneself to a programmed desire for a change rather than allowing unexpected experiences that have a purpose of bringing out moral lessons. It’s not only during New Year that we need to be challenged for any attitude change but it is an everyday opportunity. All the time in the world is a chance for everyone to yearn for a better self. We may be confined with what tradition dictates but I guess, here is nothing wrong if we try to defy the usual thinking that New Year had always been everybody’s chance to set new things in becoming a better one. I hate to rationalize that with that kind of thinking, we always have to wait for a year to start improving. Too bad, if we have wasted some chances because we were waiting for a year to begin. What I am trying to point out is why we nee to wait, if we can have it immediately as much as we are willing to do so. Opportunities to grow as a person come everyday. We get to encounter situations every now and then that have something to do with increasing the level of maturity as human being. When the purpose of New Year’s Resolution is for attitudinal growth and personality development; it can happen in any instance if we are determined to do so.
With that, I believe that we can welcome change in our lives if we really want to. Its’ just matter of being certain about what we want to achieve. Though it has been a practice to have it during the start of the year within the concept of a so-called New Year’s resolution, we can always improve ourselves anytime we want to. Live life, learn lessons and always allow growth!
Friday, February 6, 2009
Patience and Waiting Intertwined
When you wait, you need to have patience to endure the waiting. On the other hand, when you have patience that will only mean that you know how to wait for the perfect time for everything. Patience and waiting are virtues that develop a person's positive outlook in life.
Now here is the scenario: Late Monday afternoon, I was waiting for a transportation bound for my hometown in a gasoline station where southbound vehicles usually pass by. I had been there for almost an hour but the coasters and jeepneys that came were loaded enough that I could not anymore be accommodated. There were already seven trips that I missed and I started to worry. When I was already giving up, that I already wanted to return to the city terminal, I had my long wait over. A van (also means of transportation nowadays) arrived and luckily, it still had a lot of vacant seats where I got the chance to ride comfortably. I had a nice and comfy trip home. I didn't have to bear a standing position in a coaster, as well as to sit on a small wooden bench just to have ride home.
It was very simple situation that everybody gets to experience in a day-to-day basis, but honestly, it had an impact on me. It may seem to be a very ordinary circumstance but at one point, the Lord has His own way of suing common situations to make us realize His existence. The ordinary experiences each day at times carry a message or a lesson perhaps. And it, reminded me that patience and waiting always go hand in hand. The scenario applies in all aspects of life, especially at a certain point where we are trapped in an upsetting dilemma.
In relationships, I guess my little theory is valid. When you worry enough of not finding “the one” for you, the value of waiting helps. Finding the right person for you does not happen overnight, that is why I am not a believer of the “love at first sight.” patiently wait for God's perfect will for your life, including the right person He will send you. Patiently know the person, and wait for the right time to commit. You may have several failed relationships. Still, wait and be patient for the right relationship for you. The bus and the jeepneys may represent the people that come and go in your life, but when you give patience and waiting a space in yourself... in the end, everything will fall into place because you patiently wait. The right vehicle will intentionally stop in front of you, to tell you that they would love to have you in the journey.
Let us try to relate it with finding a career in life. Success, again is not as easy as 1..2..3.. just like finding the ideal career just right for you. Working hard to achieve what you want in life is the key. In the concept of hard work, still patience and waiting are major ingredients. Patience because of the uneasy trail to reach success, and waiting for the right break for your hard work. To start a career is just like waiting for the right bus to come. The first bus may have ignored you because it is overloaded and the jeepney might not stop because you do not fit in there, but believing that there are still a lot if vehicles to come that will accommodate you, is always the right attitude. Again, patience is truly needed to be able to wait f r the right ride. You may be rejected in an application, or evicted because you don't fit in anymore- but believe, there is always something designed for you where you can make use of your full potentials. Patiently try again in times of frustration or stand after a fall, then wait for other chance to come intended for you.
The two virtues always come entangled. These will help us to always open up our minds to positiveness. Whatever is for us, it will come. It may not be that immediate, but surely it will happen.
Now here is the scenario: Late Monday afternoon, I was waiting for a transportation bound for my hometown in a gasoline station where southbound vehicles usually pass by. I had been there for almost an hour but the coasters and jeepneys that came were loaded enough that I could not anymore be accommodated. There were already seven trips that I missed and I started to worry. When I was already giving up, that I already wanted to return to the city terminal, I had my long wait over. A van (also means of transportation nowadays) arrived and luckily, it still had a lot of vacant seats where I got the chance to ride comfortably. I had a nice and comfy trip home. I didn't have to bear a standing position in a coaster, as well as to sit on a small wooden bench just to have ride home.
It was very simple situation that everybody gets to experience in a day-to-day basis, but honestly, it had an impact on me. It may seem to be a very ordinary circumstance but at one point, the Lord has His own way of suing common situations to make us realize His existence. The ordinary experiences each day at times carry a message or a lesson perhaps. And it, reminded me that patience and waiting always go hand in hand. The scenario applies in all aspects of life, especially at a certain point where we are trapped in an upsetting dilemma.
In relationships, I guess my little theory is valid. When you worry enough of not finding “the one” for you, the value of waiting helps. Finding the right person for you does not happen overnight, that is why I am not a believer of the “love at first sight.” patiently wait for God's perfect will for your life, including the right person He will send you. Patiently know the person, and wait for the right time to commit. You may have several failed relationships. Still, wait and be patient for the right relationship for you. The bus and the jeepneys may represent the people that come and go in your life, but when you give patience and waiting a space in yourself... in the end, everything will fall into place because you patiently wait. The right vehicle will intentionally stop in front of you, to tell you that they would love to have you in the journey.
Let us try to relate it with finding a career in life. Success, again is not as easy as 1..2..3.. just like finding the ideal career just right for you. Working hard to achieve what you want in life is the key. In the concept of hard work, still patience and waiting are major ingredients. Patience because of the uneasy trail to reach success, and waiting for the right break for your hard work. To start a career is just like waiting for the right bus to come. The first bus may have ignored you because it is overloaded and the jeepney might not stop because you do not fit in there, but believing that there are still a lot if vehicles to come that will accommodate you, is always the right attitude. Again, patience is truly needed to be able to wait f r the right ride. You may be rejected in an application, or evicted because you don't fit in anymore- but believe, there is always something designed for you where you can make use of your full potentials. Patiently try again in times of frustration or stand after a fall, then wait for other chance to come intended for you.
The two virtues always come entangled. These will help us to always open up our minds to positiveness. Whatever is for us, it will come. It may not be that immediate, but surely it will happen.
How to Get Rid of “Inggit”
Why is it that even if you're the best of friends, close-knit siblings or tight friends. You have at one point, felt the twinge of “inggit” whenever something good happens to him/her. Instead of being happy, we find ourselves threatened, resentful, insecure, and extremely stressed and pressured at others good fortune. We fund ourselves disconted with what we have.
Envy is inherent in our nature. The thing is what envy causes, isn't just mean remarks but actions that can be destructive to others and most especially to you.
Envy asks on leading question: “What about me?” I sure do know you don't want to be the pathetic and “inggitera” all your life, so get over it. Here are some helpful ways:
1.STOP IT and I mean ASAP! AS you become aware of your envy, better stop and DO NOT, on impluse, make actions or adopt attitudes that will work against yourself.
2.Focus on your own qualities. Make the most of what you have and enjoy it! Learn to like what you have and believe in your self.
3.Spend time with the person you envy. Yes, you read me right! Hang out with you “kinaiinggitan”. This way, you get to see the whole scenario and may find out that there is less to envy than what you originally perceived.
4.Be yourself. The best way to stick out from the crowd is not to copy everyone or someone as they do. Be cool because you're unique than to emulate someone you think is coll and look so “pa-cool” which is ridiculous.
5.Be happy. A smile makes one stand out from a bunch of poker-faced people. Think about it.
Envy is not wholly negative. It can drive us forward in positive ways. Don't waste precious time and energy wallowing in “inggit”. Okay? Get up, stand out, be grounded, be heard and be happy!
Envy is inherent in our nature. The thing is what envy causes, isn't just mean remarks but actions that can be destructive to others and most especially to you.
Envy asks on leading question: “What about me?” I sure do know you don't want to be the pathetic and “inggitera” all your life, so get over it. Here are some helpful ways:
1.STOP IT and I mean ASAP! AS you become aware of your envy, better stop and DO NOT, on impluse, make actions or adopt attitudes that will work against yourself.
2.Focus on your own qualities. Make the most of what you have and enjoy it! Learn to like what you have and believe in your self.
3.Spend time with the person you envy. Yes, you read me right! Hang out with you “kinaiinggitan”. This way, you get to see the whole scenario and may find out that there is less to envy than what you originally perceived.
4.Be yourself. The best way to stick out from the crowd is not to copy everyone or someone as they do. Be cool because you're unique than to emulate someone you think is coll and look so “pa-cool” which is ridiculous.
5.Be happy. A smile makes one stand out from a bunch of poker-faced people. Think about it.
Envy is not wholly negative. It can drive us forward in positive ways. Don't waste precious time and energy wallowing in “inggit”. Okay? Get up, stand out, be grounded, be heard and be happy!
Dealing with a Re-acquaintance
It has been ages since your last face to face encounter. It was not so good. It was a decision to part ways…to finally call it quits. The good- bye was something you don’t want to linger in your memory. You weren’t so ready for things to happen that way still you let go and walked away. But in time, you were able to rebuild a better life without the other; after all, time heals the wound. The forgiveness was gradual; your heart has to eventually mend. Though the adjustment was a major struggle it has made you a stronger person.
Now, just when you thought that everything was already just a part of your so-called “past” it all of the sudden comes back and says hello. It was supposedly a long time ago story; something that you already have forgotten- it recurs. The issue here is, how do you deal? Why a reappearance? After those years of interval; there you are in front of somebody who was so long ago a very important part of your being. Yes, you are with that person again, in close encounter… in a wedding perhaps, of a common friend who is close to both of you. You have no choice but to act as normal as you are to accommodate and speak to him without any traces of pain. Therefore, this kind of re-acquaintance is never easy, believe me. This may be very easy to think of but kind of a difficult to execute.
So how do you treat the scenario? Well it depends on how mature you are and the other party is, but basically I believe both of you will have an awkward moment for a little while. Your maturity in the first place is necessary for you to be able to handle the situation. That awkward moment will be prolonged if you will not exert an effort to act as natural as you are in accommodating that person sincerely. There was forgiveness already so there is no reason to dwell on what had happened in the past which had caused you pain. It is important to be seen in your actions that you already have moved on and is happy of what is at present.
What if the re-acquaintance turned out to be a pleasant one? You felt something different. The other has grown to be someone totally different from the past. Extra sweet, maybe. The conversation was enjoyable and refreshing that in short, the company that you just had was something really special.
I think it was just okay to giggle and be flattered about how sweet the encounter was but the point is do not internalize everything. It can be true that you somehow missed each other but put a period to that, after all you have to be reminded that what you actually feel is now, within the boundaries of friendship. Just be happy of how you were able to re-establish a friendship. Take it that way. For sure there was a purpose why your path had crossed once again but it is on the matters of trying to regain the friendship that once have lost.
That re-acquaintance might leave something in your mind. It may be a thought that you keep on giggling about as an after effect. Reality check: Both of you are already committed. This ends the issue. Wake up! What you have felt can be an infatuation and it’s perfectly okay for as long as you don’t listen closely to what you are feeling. It won’t help entertaining colorful interpretation of that experience. Your commitment with the one you have at present is enough reason for you to open up your eyes with the reality that you have to face.
I also happened to see that person after a lengthy period of time and it taught me one big lesson that I have appreciated. I realized how certain I was with my feeling with the person I was committed with. Everything that we encounter from day to day always has subliminal messages that we need to be sensitive with. At one point, I have learned from the experience that what is important is the happiness that you have in the present. You may come across once again with somebody in your past; they will remain as part of the chapter in the past. It was the important message that had prompt me. The best thing to do is to not complicate your life. It happened for a reason and the reason is to continue getting over and moving on.
Now, just when you thought that everything was already just a part of your so-called “past” it all of the sudden comes back and says hello. It was supposedly a long time ago story; something that you already have forgotten- it recurs. The issue here is, how do you deal? Why a reappearance? After those years of interval; there you are in front of somebody who was so long ago a very important part of your being. Yes, you are with that person again, in close encounter… in a wedding perhaps, of a common friend who is close to both of you. You have no choice but to act as normal as you are to accommodate and speak to him without any traces of pain. Therefore, this kind of re-acquaintance is never easy, believe me. This may be very easy to think of but kind of a difficult to execute.
So how do you treat the scenario? Well it depends on how mature you are and the other party is, but basically I believe both of you will have an awkward moment for a little while. Your maturity in the first place is necessary for you to be able to handle the situation. That awkward moment will be prolonged if you will not exert an effort to act as natural as you are in accommodating that person sincerely. There was forgiveness already so there is no reason to dwell on what had happened in the past which had caused you pain. It is important to be seen in your actions that you already have moved on and is happy of what is at present.
What if the re-acquaintance turned out to be a pleasant one? You felt something different. The other has grown to be someone totally different from the past. Extra sweet, maybe. The conversation was enjoyable and refreshing that in short, the company that you just had was something really special.
I think it was just okay to giggle and be flattered about how sweet the encounter was but the point is do not internalize everything. It can be true that you somehow missed each other but put a period to that, after all you have to be reminded that what you actually feel is now, within the boundaries of friendship. Just be happy of how you were able to re-establish a friendship. Take it that way. For sure there was a purpose why your path had crossed once again but it is on the matters of trying to regain the friendship that once have lost.
That re-acquaintance might leave something in your mind. It may be a thought that you keep on giggling about as an after effect. Reality check: Both of you are already committed. This ends the issue. Wake up! What you have felt can be an infatuation and it’s perfectly okay for as long as you don’t listen closely to what you are feeling. It won’t help entertaining colorful interpretation of that experience. Your commitment with the one you have at present is enough reason for you to open up your eyes with the reality that you have to face.
I also happened to see that person after a lengthy period of time and it taught me one big lesson that I have appreciated. I realized how certain I was with my feeling with the person I was committed with. Everything that we encounter from day to day always has subliminal messages that we need to be sensitive with. At one point, I have learned from the experience that what is important is the happiness that you have in the present. You may come across once again with somebody in your past; they will remain as part of the chapter in the past. It was the important message that had prompt me. The best thing to do is to not complicate your life. It happened for a reason and the reason is to continue getting over and moving on.
The Advantage of Being a Weak Person
The title is actually a big lie because being weak is never an advantage. Somehow, I would want to discuss on the matters of being weak because as human we all have the vulnerable part of our personality. The title was designed to catch your attention that whether you are a person with a strong character, I guess it appeals to you and how much more those who are easily discouraged and unmotivated. This is something that the “weaks” should ponder about.
To start with, you will only discover how strong you are as a person if you have learned to acknowledge the opposite side. You may very tough as you are perceived by everybody but one thing for sure is that there is a part of you that is soft. The subject “weak” in this discussion will center on an attitude of being easily discourage in times confronted with life’s chaos, unmotivated because of a very low self-esteem, those who are trapped in an inferiority complex mode and someone who do not believe in herself/himself that they can actually make a difference. Before this attitude swallows you, it would be better to start trying to overcome it so that it wouldn’t become something that controls you. An attitude that hinders you to achieve and be somebody you want to be.
To posses any of the above mentioned character is indeed negative and to summarize it’s effect; you’ll always end up a loser. You never get the chance to attain because you are always afraid to try. Take the risk sometimes or as what they say conquer your fears. It is not because you are weak; it is because you chose not to give yourself a try. If you prefer to stay within your comfort zone, you have missed the opportunity to prove to yourself that you can be beyond what you think you can do. You already have failed at the moment you did not try to take the test, and it wouldn’t be a good idea to always fail without even taking chances.
Do not internalize how weak you are. Do not listen to what it says. If you were used to a “much pampered” life, start going away with it. Do not be afraid to get hurt. This might be a cliché but it is true that “the more we get hurt, the more we discover how strong we are as a person”. If you always limit yourself to a peaceful and problem- free environment you don’t get to see how reality bites. Remember that even in fantasies, the fairy-tale characters also had their share of struggles before they “lived happily ever after”. Moreover, do not keep on admitting that you are weak, because it makes you weaker.
It’s not too late to acquire a strong personality. Somebody who is positive about the things in life. Sometimes being a weak person is a state of mind. It was yourself who actually have set your mind that you are inferior, you can not do something, and that you lack confidence. It was you who have trapped yourself inside a box and refuses to go out. It was your decision to limit yourself. Embrace new things and discover how beautiful life can be if you just know how to appreciate yourself being in the midst of challenges.
Now, think. Being weak will never be an advantage. It is something that pulls you down. Do not be imprisoned when you can be somebody who can stand still no matter how unkind life at times. Contrary to what the title have said, I would want end up saying, be strong this is right thing being weak can never make you a step ahead.
To start with, you will only discover how strong you are as a person if you have learned to acknowledge the opposite side. You may very tough as you are perceived by everybody but one thing for sure is that there is a part of you that is soft. The subject “weak” in this discussion will center on an attitude of being easily discourage in times confronted with life’s chaos, unmotivated because of a very low self-esteem, those who are trapped in an inferiority complex mode and someone who do not believe in herself/himself that they can actually make a difference. Before this attitude swallows you, it would be better to start trying to overcome it so that it wouldn’t become something that controls you. An attitude that hinders you to achieve and be somebody you want to be.
To posses any of the above mentioned character is indeed negative and to summarize it’s effect; you’ll always end up a loser. You never get the chance to attain because you are always afraid to try. Take the risk sometimes or as what they say conquer your fears. It is not because you are weak; it is because you chose not to give yourself a try. If you prefer to stay within your comfort zone, you have missed the opportunity to prove to yourself that you can be beyond what you think you can do. You already have failed at the moment you did not try to take the test, and it wouldn’t be a good idea to always fail without even taking chances.
Do not internalize how weak you are. Do not listen to what it says. If you were used to a “much pampered” life, start going away with it. Do not be afraid to get hurt. This might be a cliché but it is true that “the more we get hurt, the more we discover how strong we are as a person”. If you always limit yourself to a peaceful and problem- free environment you don’t get to see how reality bites. Remember that even in fantasies, the fairy-tale characters also had their share of struggles before they “lived happily ever after”. Moreover, do not keep on admitting that you are weak, because it makes you weaker.
It’s not too late to acquire a strong personality. Somebody who is positive about the things in life. Sometimes being a weak person is a state of mind. It was yourself who actually have set your mind that you are inferior, you can not do something, and that you lack confidence. It was you who have trapped yourself inside a box and refuses to go out. It was your decision to limit yourself. Embrace new things and discover how beautiful life can be if you just know how to appreciate yourself being in the midst of challenges.
Now, think. Being weak will never be an advantage. It is something that pulls you down. Do not be imprisoned when you can be somebody who can stand still no matter how unkind life at times. Contrary to what the title have said, I would want end up saying, be strong this is right thing being weak can never make you a step ahead.
Moving on…
There are times in our lives when we are swept over by desolation. It is natural to feel this way especially when someone so dear has been taken away from us, may it be someone in the family, a friend or a lover, it all feels the same. But we all need to be alone sometimes, to feel sad and lonely for us to be fully aware of the worth of the people we usually just take for granted thinking they’re just going to be where we’ve left them.
But what if fate suddenly plays with you? What if you just wake up one day and find them gone for good? And what’s more devastating is that you never even had the chance to show them how much you loved them all along. That sure is simply heartbreaking.
Lately, I have been reading this novel, “The Deep End of the Ocean” by Jaquelyn Mitchard. It’s a movie-turned novel which is about a mother who has lost her favorite son during a homecoming party with his high school classmates. In her case, what she did after that tragic loss was instead of trying to be strong for her other children, she had been overwhelmed by misery and secluded herself in solitary confinement, thinking she was the only one who has the right to feel that way.
Getting over such a great loss may seem inconceivable but I believe that there is no better thing to do than to stand and move on. Though you may feel so weak and broken, still you must try to pick up what’s left of you and hang on to it until all the wounds have mended and you’re strong enough to face a new day.
Longing for the person you’ve lost is a normal feeling but you shouldn’t let yourself be overwhelmed by sadness because no matter how much sorry you feel about it, no matter how many days, nights, weeks or months you spend whining won’t change a thing in the past.
Life does not have to end where your misery began, having someone and losing someone is just a phase in life we all have to go through. It is not something that we can control. It’s just a fact that we have to live with. Think of the people who are still with you, the ones who are waiting to be noticed by you, the ones who are willing to help you get over that dejection. Savor every minute you spend with them because it’s not going to last forever. Free yourself from inhibitions, being happy with someone else does not mean forgetting the memory of the one you’ve lost. It’s called moving on.
But what if fate suddenly plays with you? What if you just wake up one day and find them gone for good? And what’s more devastating is that you never even had the chance to show them how much you loved them all along. That sure is simply heartbreaking.
Lately, I have been reading this novel, “The Deep End of the Ocean” by Jaquelyn Mitchard. It’s a movie-turned novel which is about a mother who has lost her favorite son during a homecoming party with his high school classmates. In her case, what she did after that tragic loss was instead of trying to be strong for her other children, she had been overwhelmed by misery and secluded herself in solitary confinement, thinking she was the only one who has the right to feel that way.
Getting over such a great loss may seem inconceivable but I believe that there is no better thing to do than to stand and move on. Though you may feel so weak and broken, still you must try to pick up what’s left of you and hang on to it until all the wounds have mended and you’re strong enough to face a new day.
Longing for the person you’ve lost is a normal feeling but you shouldn’t let yourself be overwhelmed by sadness because no matter how much sorry you feel about it, no matter how many days, nights, weeks or months you spend whining won’t change a thing in the past.
Life does not have to end where your misery began, having someone and losing someone is just a phase in life we all have to go through. It is not something that we can control. It’s just a fact that we have to live with. Think of the people who are still with you, the ones who are waiting to be noticed by you, the ones who are willing to help you get over that dejection. Savor every minute you spend with them because it’s not going to last forever. Free yourself from inhibitions, being happy with someone else does not mean forgetting the memory of the one you’ve lost. It’s called moving on.
Do Anti-Aging Creams really work?
About 60 percent of the Ads in the television that we get to see everyday is on beauty products as well as vitamins that claim “this will make you young” or ‘this prevent aging”. These advertising tag lines are most probably very enticing and catchy for most women nowadays and really, 70 percent who have seen the commercial have tried any of the endorsed products. The subtle message is obviously on trying to stop our aging. Though it is a reality that we have to grow old or the nicer term is “matured” these ads are telling us that there are ways that we can control aging in terms of physical appearance.
There are exactly ways on how you can stop aging and applying these creams and the intake of vitamins can be on top of the list but the disadvantage is that it will cost 1/3 of your monthly salary. Those who can afford even spend for a surgery, but there are cheapest ways to stay young and healthy. You can actually achieve what these anti-aging creams have promised without trying any. It is indeed cool to be mistaken of being 5 years younger than your age and is actually flattering also. The most wonderful feeling of all is that not too much effort has been exerted but the most effective natural way of feeling and looking young.
Be happy. Even with just small and simple things. Being happy means smiling a lot: to people with acquaintances, to people you just meet, to cuddly kids and to those whom you feel like smiling for the purpose of being pleasant. Laugh out loud when there are chances and enjoy doing it. There have been scientific proofs about how smiling and laughing can make us young and the quote “laughter is the best medicine” is truthful. On the other hand, living a contented life also matters. When you are a person who can easily appreciate the things around you especially the things that you have, there is a least chance to have burdens in your heart. Having a cheerful heart keeps us young. A heart that is free from hatred, greed, insecurities, envy, and other negative vibes. What is stored in your heart reflects in your appearance, physically.
Be stress free. Do not allow yourself to be succumbed with the work loads that you have and the temporary dilemmas that you are confronted with. If you can not enjoy your job in the office, just do it properly and do not complain. Think about the responsibility that you have and how you are going to perform it well. When you start complaining about your job surely you welcome stress to reign over you. It is also human nature to encounter problems in our life’s journey but remember there is always the brighter side. It has always a purpose, hold on that. In the end, there is always a solution to every problem. Note that every wrinkle that appears in your face signifies those stressful things that you keep within yourself.
Do not nag. When you are always disappointed of everything, it will not surely make you look young. Do not be too irritated always about anything and everything simply because you don’t have to. Be calm on responding on some matters. You can always have a good conversation with anybody in a nice manner. There is nothing wrong with having an open mind that could understand situations and is rational about it. Every time you frown, think about that another wrinkle would appear in your face. A wrinkled face is so unlikely.
No anti-aging cream can ever function the way the natural method can do. Being young looking also has something to do with your inner self because what is inside you is manifested in your outward appearance. Take life as something that you have to enjoy. We all grow old, but we can keep a young and healthy heart that will surely give us that youthful radiance that most women would want to achieve.
There are exactly ways on how you can stop aging and applying these creams and the intake of vitamins can be on top of the list but the disadvantage is that it will cost 1/3 of your monthly salary. Those who can afford even spend for a surgery, but there are cheapest ways to stay young and healthy. You can actually achieve what these anti-aging creams have promised without trying any. It is indeed cool to be mistaken of being 5 years younger than your age and is actually flattering also. The most wonderful feeling of all is that not too much effort has been exerted but the most effective natural way of feeling and looking young.
Be happy. Even with just small and simple things. Being happy means smiling a lot: to people with acquaintances, to people you just meet, to cuddly kids and to those whom you feel like smiling for the purpose of being pleasant. Laugh out loud when there are chances and enjoy doing it. There have been scientific proofs about how smiling and laughing can make us young and the quote “laughter is the best medicine” is truthful. On the other hand, living a contented life also matters. When you are a person who can easily appreciate the things around you especially the things that you have, there is a least chance to have burdens in your heart. Having a cheerful heart keeps us young. A heart that is free from hatred, greed, insecurities, envy, and other negative vibes. What is stored in your heart reflects in your appearance, physically.
Be stress free. Do not allow yourself to be succumbed with the work loads that you have and the temporary dilemmas that you are confronted with. If you can not enjoy your job in the office, just do it properly and do not complain. Think about the responsibility that you have and how you are going to perform it well. When you start complaining about your job surely you welcome stress to reign over you. It is also human nature to encounter problems in our life’s journey but remember there is always the brighter side. It has always a purpose, hold on that. In the end, there is always a solution to every problem. Note that every wrinkle that appears in your face signifies those stressful things that you keep within yourself.
Do not nag. When you are always disappointed of everything, it will not surely make you look young. Do not be too irritated always about anything and everything simply because you don’t have to. Be calm on responding on some matters. You can always have a good conversation with anybody in a nice manner. There is nothing wrong with having an open mind that could understand situations and is rational about it. Every time you frown, think about that another wrinkle would appear in your face. A wrinkled face is so unlikely.
No anti-aging cream can ever function the way the natural method can do. Being young looking also has something to do with your inner self because what is inside you is manifested in your outward appearance. Take life as something that you have to enjoy. We all grow old, but we can keep a young and healthy heart that will surely give us that youthful radiance that most women would want to achieve.
Networking for Goodness
Nobody believes that we could live in a perfect world manipulated by goodness. A place where everybody’s goal is to do something worthy, something like a chain reaction to everyone that when someone does something good to you, the response should be for you to pass it on and that if everybody are doing so, then the world would be free from chaos and indeed the world will be perfect.
This is from the idea of a 7th grader kid who was challenged by his professor to think of something that would change the world. It was a class project but they need to put it into action. He came up with a networking scheme aiming to influence the entire world to do helpful things to others. You start with yourself aspiring to do something good to three persons, and that three person whom you touched are required to pass it on by doing an equally good thing to another three, same process applies to another three and the chain continues with so much goodness as an objective. The movie is entitled Pay it Forward. Instead of paying back of the goodness bestowed unto you, it can be a stranger or someone you know, there is a need for you to pay it forward. Of course it was from a movie, because if it was real… there is a little chance for it to materialize. I happen to watch it again in a lazy Saturday afternoon and as expected even if it was not my first time to watch it, it has always an impact. I am listing some realistic factors that the movie has emphasized for the purpose of sharing it to you. I hope it will give us realizations just like what it did to me.
Kids make sense. Not all brilliant ideas came from the big ones. At times the most sensible idea comes from the small ones, the children. In the movie, the eleven year old Trevor had actually came up with the pay it forward scheme because he was surrounded by a chaotic environment; an alcoholic single mom, a messy community with a school dominated with bullies. It was the way he observed his surrounding and that with the experiences he was convinced that his scheme in some ways can change the world. Now, was there a point in our life that we have come to think what this kid did think of? Perhaps we might have been very busy doing something for ourselves that we already have forgotten to consider others. Indeed, we have to listen to the small voices at times that can actually mean great ideas. Kids I guess are more sensitive and most of today’s generation can think advanced. So I think there is no reason to underestimate what the kids can do as well as what they can contribute for society’s welfare.
Death has always been an eye opener. We have to admit that in most cases there should be a sacrificial lamb first before the majority could realize we have to do something. There have been so many deaths in the Philippines that have awakened us to make an action and that this should not always be the scenario. In the movie, Trevor died because he wanted to help his friend who has been bullied by kids for a long time, he couldn’t stand it anymore that is why he rescued his friend that led to his death. His death became made known to the public because his story was covered by TV reporter before the incident. It was actually a sad ending but the good thing was the people have started to practice the pay it forward scheme of Trevor because of the publicity. Just when he already believed his idea didn’t work; it has started to influence a large number of population after his death. We actually are like the people in the movie, it always take lives to vanish before we can realize we need to make a difference. Well, everyday is a chance to do something good for others. Let us not wait for a life to be sacrificed before we get to grasp our need to extend our hands for others.
Helping and giving should always be unconditional. The reason why it was pay it forward because the main objective is to pass the goodness forward wholeheartedly. You need to influence others in forwarding it too. You need to do something worthwhile to others not expecting a return of the investment you shared with others through the act of kindness. Instead, you need to encourage the people to do the same thing not for you in return but to the others. When we lend a helping hand or when we grant a favor to anyone, let us try to keep away from the “utang na loob” that the Philippine culture is confined with. Trevor’s scheme was in fact to teach us that considering others, helping and giving when you do it sincerely, you don’t always expect of something back.
It seems that the biggest impact of the movie was to think about that you should not wait for what the others can do for you but to think about what you can do for others. We should all remember that everything has to start within ourselves; we should extend ourselves to others. What we can achieve as a whole starts with someone (and that is yourself) who is willing to be a part of that great achievement. Sounds very idealistic? Well, not anymore if we all, even with small things, have to pay it forward so that the networking begins.
This is from the idea of a 7th grader kid who was challenged by his professor to think of something that would change the world. It was a class project but they need to put it into action. He came up with a networking scheme aiming to influence the entire world to do helpful things to others. You start with yourself aspiring to do something good to three persons, and that three person whom you touched are required to pass it on by doing an equally good thing to another three, same process applies to another three and the chain continues with so much goodness as an objective. The movie is entitled Pay it Forward. Instead of paying back of the goodness bestowed unto you, it can be a stranger or someone you know, there is a need for you to pay it forward. Of course it was from a movie, because if it was real… there is a little chance for it to materialize. I happen to watch it again in a lazy Saturday afternoon and as expected even if it was not my first time to watch it, it has always an impact. I am listing some realistic factors that the movie has emphasized for the purpose of sharing it to you. I hope it will give us realizations just like what it did to me.
Kids make sense. Not all brilliant ideas came from the big ones. At times the most sensible idea comes from the small ones, the children. In the movie, the eleven year old Trevor had actually came up with the pay it forward scheme because he was surrounded by a chaotic environment; an alcoholic single mom, a messy community with a school dominated with bullies. It was the way he observed his surrounding and that with the experiences he was convinced that his scheme in some ways can change the world. Now, was there a point in our life that we have come to think what this kid did think of? Perhaps we might have been very busy doing something for ourselves that we already have forgotten to consider others. Indeed, we have to listen to the small voices at times that can actually mean great ideas. Kids I guess are more sensitive and most of today’s generation can think advanced. So I think there is no reason to underestimate what the kids can do as well as what they can contribute for society’s welfare.
Death has always been an eye opener. We have to admit that in most cases there should be a sacrificial lamb first before the majority could realize we have to do something. There have been so many deaths in the Philippines that have awakened us to make an action and that this should not always be the scenario. In the movie, Trevor died because he wanted to help his friend who has been bullied by kids for a long time, he couldn’t stand it anymore that is why he rescued his friend that led to his death. His death became made known to the public because his story was covered by TV reporter before the incident. It was actually a sad ending but the good thing was the people have started to practice the pay it forward scheme of Trevor because of the publicity. Just when he already believed his idea didn’t work; it has started to influence a large number of population after his death. We actually are like the people in the movie, it always take lives to vanish before we can realize we need to make a difference. Well, everyday is a chance to do something good for others. Let us not wait for a life to be sacrificed before we get to grasp our need to extend our hands for others.
Helping and giving should always be unconditional. The reason why it was pay it forward because the main objective is to pass the goodness forward wholeheartedly. You need to influence others in forwarding it too. You need to do something worthwhile to others not expecting a return of the investment you shared with others through the act of kindness. Instead, you need to encourage the people to do the same thing not for you in return but to the others. When we lend a helping hand or when we grant a favor to anyone, let us try to keep away from the “utang na loob” that the Philippine culture is confined with. Trevor’s scheme was in fact to teach us that considering others, helping and giving when you do it sincerely, you don’t always expect of something back.
It seems that the biggest impact of the movie was to think about that you should not wait for what the others can do for you but to think about what you can do for others. We should all remember that everything has to start within ourselves; we should extend ourselves to others. What we can achieve as a whole starts with someone (and that is yourself) who is willing to be a part of that great achievement. Sounds very idealistic? Well, not anymore if we all, even with small things, have to pay it forward so that the networking begins.
Oh, Where is Mom?
Who said you wanted a nagging mom? Nobody wants one I bet, but in most cases moms are naturally designed naggers. Anyhow, we love our moms that way. That, no matter how big their mouth is, we have to admit it’s one reason why we just love our mothers and their nagging. I can vividly remember how my mom was like an alarm clock way back in my elementary days. Every morning I woke up with her, yelling at us to wake in time for early preparation for school. She was as loud as an alarm clock but I think it has taught me something that still applies up to now; punctuality. I know she would always do that every morning because she wanted to instill in us the value of being “on time”.
Moms, being “figuratively noisy”, can be annoying. They are like cellular phone reminders. They never fail to reiterate things and values that we have to be reminded of. They always talk, they do sermons, they lecture that sometimes it saturates us. Think. Without those unceasing reminders, we are not the better persons that we are now. Even if it was irritating at times, it served as our guide as we grow up. It was just hard for us to immediately realize that what had actually molded us to be responsible individuals basically were the exasperating reminders of our mother.
When a woman becomes a mom, I guess it is part of the package that she has to talk, yell and instruct a lot, can even be like the guidance counselor in our school, give the best advice on earth. Predicting that we are into trouble, that we are having dilemmas, that we are feeling not so well is another extraordinary talent that our moms have. And when they are right about their predictions, there our moms go… start talking and talking again. Sometimes they are comparable to a talk show host on TV. Agree with it, they can give the most relaxing conversation we can ever have oftentimes when we most need it.
So, do you still wonder why when you get to arrive home and the house seems to be empty and quiet you ask; “Oh, where is mom?”. We have to confess it always unconsciously happens. You just don’t know how you are so annoyed with mom nagging around making the house so noisy yet, when they are not visible in the house, we look for mom. I came to realize it when one time I had a chat with some of my officemates while having lunch. We all agree on that. It is definitely, true. We instantly look for them when they are out of sight at home. We miss them. The house is always incomplete without the noisy mom. Even if we don’t like it at some point, we just love them being the person that they are especially their unstoppable mouth which has given as the practical advices we first learned.
Moms, being “figuratively noisy”, can be annoying. They are like cellular phone reminders. They never fail to reiterate things and values that we have to be reminded of. They always talk, they do sermons, they lecture that sometimes it saturates us. Think. Without those unceasing reminders, we are not the better persons that we are now. Even if it was irritating at times, it served as our guide as we grow up. It was just hard for us to immediately realize that what had actually molded us to be responsible individuals basically were the exasperating reminders of our mother.
When a woman becomes a mom, I guess it is part of the package that she has to talk, yell and instruct a lot, can even be like the guidance counselor in our school, give the best advice on earth. Predicting that we are into trouble, that we are having dilemmas, that we are feeling not so well is another extraordinary talent that our moms have. And when they are right about their predictions, there our moms go… start talking and talking again. Sometimes they are comparable to a talk show host on TV. Agree with it, they can give the most relaxing conversation we can ever have oftentimes when we most need it.
So, do you still wonder why when you get to arrive home and the house seems to be empty and quiet you ask; “Oh, where is mom?”. We have to confess it always unconsciously happens. You just don’t know how you are so annoyed with mom nagging around making the house so noisy yet, when they are not visible in the house, we look for mom. I came to realize it when one time I had a chat with some of my officemates while having lunch. We all agree on that. It is definitely, true. We instantly look for them when they are out of sight at home. We miss them. The house is always incomplete without the noisy mom. Even if we don’t like it at some point, we just love them being the person that they are especially their unstoppable mouth which has given as the practical advices we first learned.
Keep Knocking; A thought from Lea Salonga
I happen to watch the latest concert of Ms. Saigon star Lea Salonga aired over a national TV Network one late Sunday night and as expected the show was well-applauded. I am not much of a Lea Salonga fanatic but I don’t deny that I love watching her concerts. I do wait for it to be aired on the television since I can not afford the ticket. She’s a high paying stage performer and well, expect that her shows are of course for the A-crowd. She’s not a pop star but a well-respected artist that is why I liked it more that the concert was not the screaming and the dancing crowd but the relaxed, behaved and appreciative audience. It was more of an applause and standing ovation not the cheering crowd.
The concert was entitled, “My Life on- Stage” and that the subject matter of the show was her. It was not just plain singing of a repertoire of hits but songs that had relevance on her way to success. How she started as a performer up to the Disney Movie stints and to her biggest achievement in life- her marriage and her daughter of course. She commented in one of her adlibs that is was her one way of sharing her life to the Filipinos and how she is happy to be somebody that the country is proud of.
One very striking testimonial which she related in the ending part of the show was a little advice that says “Keep knocking”. It was a humble advice from a very successful internationally acclaimed performer to admit that she also had her share of down moments. She disclosed that not all doors were opened for her “I had knocked some doors which was not opened” says the Ms. Saigon. Just like everybody else, her way to the top was not an easy road. But she said “keep knocking” and reading between the lines, she wanted to stress out that we should not stop dreaming of things we wanted to achieve. Just like Lea, everything for her started with a dream.
True. Two words that make sense. Success comes when we work for it. We have the need to try to knock on doors to see if it’s going to be opened. At times when opportunities don’t come our way, it requires our effort to look for it. When a door remains closed for us, be reminded that a lot of door encounters may still come our way which will open opportunities, only if you persevere. Believe in what you want. You can only achieve if you desire to achieve. To obtain the biggest dreams, we start from small. Take it from Lea, I’m sure it works!
We can be our own version of a Lea Salonga. We are all capable of achieving success that is meant for us. There are doors which are designed to open up for us. It may be not the same door with your super successful friend, but surely there is a wide open door for you. Try out knocking now, there’s a long way to go. Lea and some other ordinary people who worked hard for their success also had a long way to find the perfect entry for them. I believe it’s not easy to knock on doors but you couldn’t have the entrance for your achievements if you won’t start striking with your dreams. When a door opens, enter! It might be locked and will never be open up for you again.
The concert was entitled, “My Life on- Stage” and that the subject matter of the show was her. It was not just plain singing of a repertoire of hits but songs that had relevance on her way to success. How she started as a performer up to the Disney Movie stints and to her biggest achievement in life- her marriage and her daughter of course. She commented in one of her adlibs that is was her one way of sharing her life to the Filipinos and how she is happy to be somebody that the country is proud of.
One very striking testimonial which she related in the ending part of the show was a little advice that says “Keep knocking”. It was a humble advice from a very successful internationally acclaimed performer to admit that she also had her share of down moments. She disclosed that not all doors were opened for her “I had knocked some doors which was not opened” says the Ms. Saigon. Just like everybody else, her way to the top was not an easy road. But she said “keep knocking” and reading between the lines, she wanted to stress out that we should not stop dreaming of things we wanted to achieve. Just like Lea, everything for her started with a dream.
True. Two words that make sense. Success comes when we work for it. We have the need to try to knock on doors to see if it’s going to be opened. At times when opportunities don’t come our way, it requires our effort to look for it. When a door remains closed for us, be reminded that a lot of door encounters may still come our way which will open opportunities, only if you persevere. Believe in what you want. You can only achieve if you desire to achieve. To obtain the biggest dreams, we start from small. Take it from Lea, I’m sure it works!
We can be our own version of a Lea Salonga. We are all capable of achieving success that is meant for us. There are doors which are designed to open up for us. It may be not the same door with your super successful friend, but surely there is a wide open door for you. Try out knocking now, there’s a long way to go. Lea and some other ordinary people who worked hard for their success also had a long way to find the perfect entry for them. I believe it’s not easy to knock on doors but you couldn’t have the entrance for your achievements if you won’t start striking with your dreams. When a door opens, enter! It might be locked and will never be open up for you again.
Be Proud of your Waray-waray Music
I could say that our music has evolved and the new generation artists are somehow adopting the modern expression and we must be proud that our culture is still integrated with the modernity of their music. They are becoming popular or should I say they are indeed popular now, and what is beautiful is that they have gained the support of our fellow Waray-waray. The credit of course, should be given to the local radio station which plays compositions of these bands/groups that are purely Waray-waray. Basically, it is the reason why their compositions are familiar to us. Waray-waray artists have turned out to be talented and creative in expressing their passion for music.
In a concert organized by NGOs in celebration of the World Earth Day at the Balyuan Tower in Magsaysay Boulevard popularly known as “Mags Bar” by the younger generation, the crowd from all walks of life was really enjoying the show. Featuring the local artists of Leyte, the performers did not fail to give the audience their best performances. Different genres of music from reggae, rap, love songs, rock and alternative were performed creating a jam packed event. My conclusion is that, at times we don’t need high paying entertainers from Manila to make the natives enjoy. And being in the event, I endorse that our local talents were more than enough to give a total entertainment, and in some ways it also promotes our very own.
“Waray Rap is not the old school rap”. I quote this from an interview with Gerbie Santo, the Station Manager of Ifm Tacloban. He said that the La Familia’s style of rapping is something that has evolved from the old school style. La Familia is one of the pioneering groups of Waray rappers in Tacloban. Members of this group are college students who started with rap music in their high school days. Even grade schoolers know their songs which are making to the top ten countdowns, in some of our local radio stations. Their hit song “Salisi” among many other compositions has stayed no. 1 for a couple of weeks in the daily top ten countdowns in MOR 94.3. Rap in our own dialect seemed to be awkward for some, but La Familia has proven to make their own trademark. As the La Familia performed in the Earth Day Concert, people can’t help but sing along.
On stage was Bolingling, who is an lawyer slash musician. What made him popular were his hits “Ambo’t Ha Im” and “Single Nanay”(single mom) which are both good compositions. One thing that is excellent about his compositions is the way he expresses reality in his songs. “Single Nanay” for example talks about the unfortunate single mom who never listened to the advises of her parents, that instead of concentrating on her studies the poor girl prioritized her boyfriend, got pregnant and ended up to be a teenage mama. People could relate exactly what he points out in his songs because what he usually talks about is reality. Then comes Lazy Susan which delighted the crowd. The group won the grand prize in the SOUND SKOOL National Inter-School Band Competition sponsored by Nescafé. They defeated 13 other bands representing different college institutions all over the Philippines. They play love songs in an alternative rock genre and their music fits the taste of the young individuals. Their winning piece entitled “superdupermegaamazinghero” was a hit. Then the most humorous group who had a really amusing performance was Green Peas. Their music is not just a trying hard reggae, but is indeed certified reggae music with a twist of Waray-waray lyrics. They are cool and their music could relate with the mass. They have been unique for their extraordinary compositions, perceived by some people to have explicit lyrics but for some, they are nothing but hilarious ones, for those who are malicious, the lyrics may be understood with double meaning. In what ever way you comprehend their songs the bottom line is, it’s just an expression.
They are just some of the waray artists who stood out and the others are still on the process to follow their footsteps. They are so admirable. Not everybody have this confidence to come out and take risk of showcasing their compositions written in our own dialect to the public. But because of their audacity, more and more local talents are inspired and that is why we have all the reasons to be proud of our home grown talents. They have made their own phenomenon through their music that they have contributed to the Waray culture. Be a proud Waray-waray. Support our artists. Promote our culture!
In a concert organized by NGOs in celebration of the World Earth Day at the Balyuan Tower in Magsaysay Boulevard popularly known as “Mags Bar” by the younger generation, the crowd from all walks of life was really enjoying the show. Featuring the local artists of Leyte, the performers did not fail to give the audience their best performances. Different genres of music from reggae, rap, love songs, rock and alternative were performed creating a jam packed event. My conclusion is that, at times we don’t need high paying entertainers from Manila to make the natives enjoy. And being in the event, I endorse that our local talents were more than enough to give a total entertainment, and in some ways it also promotes our very own.
“Waray Rap is not the old school rap”. I quote this from an interview with Gerbie Santo, the Station Manager of Ifm Tacloban. He said that the La Familia’s style of rapping is something that has evolved from the old school style. La Familia is one of the pioneering groups of Waray rappers in Tacloban. Members of this group are college students who started with rap music in their high school days. Even grade schoolers know their songs which are making to the top ten countdowns, in some of our local radio stations. Their hit song “Salisi” among many other compositions has stayed no. 1 for a couple of weeks in the daily top ten countdowns in MOR 94.3. Rap in our own dialect seemed to be awkward for some, but La Familia has proven to make their own trademark. As the La Familia performed in the Earth Day Concert, people can’t help but sing along.
On stage was Bolingling, who is an lawyer slash musician. What made him popular were his hits “Ambo’t Ha Im” and “Single Nanay”(single mom) which are both good compositions. One thing that is excellent about his compositions is the way he expresses reality in his songs. “Single Nanay” for example talks about the unfortunate single mom who never listened to the advises of her parents, that instead of concentrating on her studies the poor girl prioritized her boyfriend, got pregnant and ended up to be a teenage mama. People could relate exactly what he points out in his songs because what he usually talks about is reality. Then comes Lazy Susan which delighted the crowd. The group won the grand prize in the SOUND SKOOL National Inter-School Band Competition sponsored by Nescafé. They defeated 13 other bands representing different college institutions all over the Philippines. They play love songs in an alternative rock genre and their music fits the taste of the young individuals. Their winning piece entitled “superdupermegaamazinghero” was a hit. Then the most humorous group who had a really amusing performance was Green Peas. Their music is not just a trying hard reggae, but is indeed certified reggae music with a twist of Waray-waray lyrics. They are cool and their music could relate with the mass. They have been unique for their extraordinary compositions, perceived by some people to have explicit lyrics but for some, they are nothing but hilarious ones, for those who are malicious, the lyrics may be understood with double meaning. In what ever way you comprehend their songs the bottom line is, it’s just an expression.
They are just some of the waray artists who stood out and the others are still on the process to follow their footsteps. They are so admirable. Not everybody have this confidence to come out and take risk of showcasing their compositions written in our own dialect to the public. But because of their audacity, more and more local talents are inspired and that is why we have all the reasons to be proud of our home grown talents. They have made their own phenomenon through their music that they have contributed to the Waray culture. Be a proud Waray-waray. Support our artists. Promote our culture!
A Good Read for the Mother’s Month
It was just this summer when I had the chance and the time to read a book which was given to me during my 28th birthday and I am very much excited to share with you the good things that I have learned from the book from a bestselling writer, Mitch Albom. My fascination with the works of this writer started when I read his book, Tuesdays with Morrie and reading his another bestselling masterpiece For one More Day is as expected, gave a lot of great lessons in life.
The true to life story was about a man named Chick Benetto, a broken-down former baseball player who has collapsed into alcoholism and despair.He returns one night to his small hometown with plans to take his life. At the final moment, he is magically granted one more day with his departed mother, Posey Benetto, who illuminates the secrets of both their lives and shows him a way to redemption. For one more day the man in the story was able to spend with his mother who’s already dead for some major realizations in life.
As much as I would want to dwell in telling you about how beautiful the story was, I guess what should be emphasized are the messages the story has conveyed. The moral lessons in the story was basically focused on imparting how great a mother could be to her children.Reading the book that was just so in time for the Mother’s month, made me feel like there was a purpose why I get to read it before the Mother’s day.This is what I want to discuss and I hope I could atleast share good things like what I have learned in the book that in conclusion, I propose that it should not only be during the mother’s month that we have to appreciate our mother…it has to be every single day.
The book richly explores the often overlooked relationship between mother and son. When a son is so close to the mother, he is usually labeled as mama’s boy. In cases of broken families, a son who is left with his mother is by no choice a mama’s boy. I guess there is nothing wrong to be a mama’s boy and that is number lesson I appreciated in the story. It’s just so happen that a mama’s heart is both the tough and the sweet one that can tolerate and controls a son. It may not be that all mothers are successful in raising a son to be the best person that he has to be, especially the mama’s boy but for sure all mothers are striving so hard to provide, to guide and to mold his child to be a better person.
Posey Benetto the mother of Chick was the only divorcee in town, and with this she has to endure all the malicious judgments about her in the entire neighborhood. She was even evicted from the hospital where she is working as a nurse because of her family status. She ended up working in a beauty parlor and part-time housekeeper. True, a mother could bear all the hardships for her children’s sake. There are many “Posey Benetto” around us, those mothers who could willingly suffer just to be able to feed her family. Mothers who are working overseas are doing greatest sacrifices, and that is how far a mother’s love could be.
The cliché “Mother Knows Best” is for me always agreeable. In the story, Posey wanted nothing but the best for her children, a good life despite of all the odds. It was always never easy to be a product of a broken family, and mothers who is left with all the responsibility, will always strive to make everything normal for her kids. The “mothers knows best” maybe taken for granted by us most of time, because we felt like as we grow mature we already know what is best for us… we are still bound to meet instances where we have to run back to our mothers for a rescue. Admittedly, a mother can give the best advice and can offer the most effective solution in times of crisis. Just like what had happen to Chick, in the most difficult time of his life, it was his mother who made him realize what was best for him.
A Mother forgives after all the nagging. They will talk a lot, and will put on you all the blame but still they forgive. After all, it was them who first taught us to say “I’m sorry”. Sometimes it may take the longest time for them to pardon, but in the end there is still forgiveness. At times, it is needless to ask, we are already forgiven. Chick, made a worst lie to her mom that unexpectedly on the same day he was enjoying the “lie” his mom died. When again, he had the chance to be with his mom for one more day, he humbly confessed and was lovingly forgiven and comforted by his mom.
All mothers can be great. They are the best in their own ways. They have the toughest job on earth, a 24-7 task. That is why; a month or a day is not enough to show them how much we value them. Let us make our mothers feel that we love them everyday just like they do.
The true to life story was about a man named Chick Benetto, a broken-down former baseball player who has collapsed into alcoholism and despair.He returns one night to his small hometown with plans to take his life. At the final moment, he is magically granted one more day with his departed mother, Posey Benetto, who illuminates the secrets of both their lives and shows him a way to redemption. For one more day the man in the story was able to spend with his mother who’s already dead for some major realizations in life.
As much as I would want to dwell in telling you about how beautiful the story was, I guess what should be emphasized are the messages the story has conveyed. The moral lessons in the story was basically focused on imparting how great a mother could be to her children.Reading the book that was just so in time for the Mother’s month, made me feel like there was a purpose why I get to read it before the Mother’s day.This is what I want to discuss and I hope I could atleast share good things like what I have learned in the book that in conclusion, I propose that it should not only be during the mother’s month that we have to appreciate our mother…it has to be every single day.
The book richly explores the often overlooked relationship between mother and son. When a son is so close to the mother, he is usually labeled as mama’s boy. In cases of broken families, a son who is left with his mother is by no choice a mama’s boy. I guess there is nothing wrong to be a mama’s boy and that is number lesson I appreciated in the story. It’s just so happen that a mama’s heart is both the tough and the sweet one that can tolerate and controls a son. It may not be that all mothers are successful in raising a son to be the best person that he has to be, especially the mama’s boy but for sure all mothers are striving so hard to provide, to guide and to mold his child to be a better person.
Posey Benetto the mother of Chick was the only divorcee in town, and with this she has to endure all the malicious judgments about her in the entire neighborhood. She was even evicted from the hospital where she is working as a nurse because of her family status. She ended up working in a beauty parlor and part-time housekeeper. True, a mother could bear all the hardships for her children’s sake. There are many “Posey Benetto” around us, those mothers who could willingly suffer just to be able to feed her family. Mothers who are working overseas are doing greatest sacrifices, and that is how far a mother’s love could be.
The cliché “Mother Knows Best” is for me always agreeable. In the story, Posey wanted nothing but the best for her children, a good life despite of all the odds. It was always never easy to be a product of a broken family, and mothers who is left with all the responsibility, will always strive to make everything normal for her kids. The “mothers knows best” maybe taken for granted by us most of time, because we felt like as we grow mature we already know what is best for us… we are still bound to meet instances where we have to run back to our mothers for a rescue. Admittedly, a mother can give the best advice and can offer the most effective solution in times of crisis. Just like what had happen to Chick, in the most difficult time of his life, it was his mother who made him realize what was best for him.
A Mother forgives after all the nagging. They will talk a lot, and will put on you all the blame but still they forgive. After all, it was them who first taught us to say “I’m sorry”. Sometimes it may take the longest time for them to pardon, but in the end there is still forgiveness. At times, it is needless to ask, we are already forgiven. Chick, made a worst lie to her mom that unexpectedly on the same day he was enjoying the “lie” his mom died. When again, he had the chance to be with his mom for one more day, he humbly confessed and was lovingly forgiven and comforted by his mom.
All mothers can be great. They are the best in their own ways. They have the toughest job on earth, a 24-7 task. That is why; a month or a day is not enough to show them how much we value them. Let us make our mothers feel that we love them everyday just like they do.
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