Dealing with a Re-acquaintance

It has been ages since your last face to face encounter. It was not so good. It was a decision to part ways…to finally call it quits. The good- bye was something you don’t want to linger in your memory. You weren’t so ready for things to happen that way still you let go and walked away. But in time, you were able to rebuild a better life without the other; after all, time heals the wound. The forgiveness was gradual; your heart has to eventually mend. Though the adjustment was a major struggle it has made you a stronger person.

Now, just when you thought that everything was already just a part of your so-called “past” it all of the sudden comes back and says hello. It was supposedly a long time ago story; something that you already have forgotten- it recurs. The issue here is, how do you deal? Why a reappearance? After those years of interval; there you are in front of somebody who was so long ago a very important part of your being. Yes, you are with that person again, in close encounter… in a wedding perhaps, of a common friend who is close to both of you. You have no choice but to act as normal as you are to accommodate and speak to him without any traces of pain. Therefore, this kind of re-acquaintance is never easy, believe me. This may be very easy to think of but kind of a difficult to execute.

So how do you treat the scenario? Well it depends on how mature you are and the other party is, but basically I believe both of you will have an awkward moment for a little while. Your maturity in the first place is necessary for you to be able to handle the situation. That awkward moment will be prolonged if you will not exert an effort to act as natural as you are in accommodating that person sincerely. There was forgiveness already so there is no reason to dwell on what had happened in the past which had caused you pain. It is important to be seen in your actions that you already have moved on and is happy of what is at present.

What if the re-acquaintance turned out to be a pleasant one? You felt something different. The other has grown to be someone totally different from the past. Extra sweet, maybe. The conversation was enjoyable and refreshing that in short, the company that you just had was something really special.

I think it was just okay to giggle and be flattered about how sweet the encounter was but the point is do not internalize everything. It can be true that you somehow missed each other but put a period to that, after all you have to be reminded that what you actually feel is now, within the boundaries of friendship. Just be happy of how you were able to re-establish a friendship. Take it that way. For sure there was a purpose why your path had crossed once again but it is on the matters of trying to regain the friendship that once have lost.

That re-acquaintance might leave something in your mind. It may be a thought that you keep on giggling about as an after effect. Reality check: Both of you are already committed. This ends the issue. Wake up! What you have felt can be an infatuation and it’s perfectly okay for as long as you don’t listen closely to what you are feeling. It won’t help entertaining colorful interpretation of that experience. Your commitment with the one you have at present is enough reason for you to open up your eyes with the reality that you have to face.

I also happened to see that person after a lengthy period of time and it taught me one big lesson that I have appreciated. I realized how certain I was with my feeling with the person I was committed with. Everything that we encounter from day to day always has subliminal messages that we need to be sensitive with. At one point, I have learned from the experience that what is important is the happiness that you have in the present. You may come across once again with somebody in your past; they will remain as part of the chapter in the past. It was the important message that had prompt me. The best thing to do is to not complicate your life. It happened for a reason and the reason is to continue getting over and moving on.