Moving on…

There are times in our lives when we are swept over by desolation. It is natural to feel this way especially when someone so dear has been taken away from us, may it be someone in the family, a friend or a lover, it all feels the same. But we all need to be alone sometimes, to feel sad and lonely for us to be fully aware of the worth of the people we usually just take for granted thinking they’re just going to be where we’ve left them.

But what if fate suddenly plays with you? What if you just wake up one day and find them gone for good? And what’s more devastating is that you never even had the chance to show them how much you loved them all along. That sure is simply heartbreaking.

Lately, I have been reading this novel, “The Deep End of the Ocean” by Jaquelyn Mitchard. It’s a movie-turned novel which is about a mother who has lost her favorite son during a homecoming party with his high school classmates. In her case, what she did after that tragic loss was instead of trying to be strong for her other children, she had been overwhelmed by misery and secluded herself in solitary confinement, thinking she was the only one who has the right to feel that way.

Getting over such a great loss may seem inconceivable but I believe that there is no better thing to do than to stand and move on. Though you may feel so weak and broken, still you must try to pick up what’s left of you and hang on to it until all the wounds have mended and you’re strong enough to face a new day.

Longing for the person you’ve lost is a normal feeling but you shouldn’t let yourself be overwhelmed by sadness because no matter how much sorry you feel about it, no matter how many days, nights, weeks or months you spend whining won’t change a thing in the past.

Life does not have to end where your misery began, having someone and losing someone is just a phase in life we all have to go through. It is not something that we can control. It’s just a fact that we have to live with. Think of the people who are still with you, the ones who are waiting to be noticed by you, the ones who are willing to help you get over that dejection. Savor every minute you spend with them because it’s not going to last forever. Free yourself from inhibitions, being happy with someone else does not mean forgetting the memory of the one you’ve lost. It’s called moving on.